I see you sitting there. Across the screen or the coffee table, you might be wearing a “brave face.” You’re talking about your CV, your LinkedIn outreach, your next “pivot.” But underneath the corporate jargon, I can sense the weight.

Let me say this gently, clearly, and without hesitation: “If you’ve lost your job or are facing redundancy; you are not failing. You are processing an ending.

In today’s world of restructures, reorganisations, and constant change, job loss has become common. Yet what is rarely acknowledged is the emotional truth behind it: Job loss is a bereavement. And it is okay to grieve.

Grief is present even when change is voluntary. People often minimize their pain because “others have it worse.” Unprocessed grief can stall confidence, clarity, and growth. Endings demand reflection, not repression.

It’s Never Just About the Paycheck

Work is rarely just work. Your role may have held:

  • Your sense of identity and self-worth

  • Daily structure and stability

  • A sense of belonging and contribution

  • Recognition, status, and purpose

  • Financial safety and future certainty

So when it ends, whether suddenly or by choice, something inside you ends too. You might be mourning your community, your agency, your daily rhythm. And yet, many people are told to “move on,” “stay positive,” or “look ahead.”

But grief doesn’t respond to pressure. It responds to being seen.



Understanding the “Fog”

You’ve told me you feel a bit of “brain fog” lately. Maybe you’re applying for 50 jobs a day just to feel productive; or maybe you can’t bring yourself to apply at all.

In my work, I often hear:

  • “I don’t recognise myself anymore.”

  • “I’ve lost my confidence.”

  • “I lack motivation.”

  • “I feel numb, angry, or stuck.”

What I want you to hear is this: These are not signs of weakness. They are signs of loss. Grief can show up quietly as emotional numbness, irritability, low energy, anxiety about the future, or overthinking what happened.

We aren’t going to ignore these feelings. We are going to map them. Your nervous system is trying to recalibrate after an ending. That takes time, and compassion.

Our Roadmap through the Transition

If we were sitting together, I wouldn’t rush you into “what’s next.”

I would first help you ask: “What has ended, and what needs to be acknowledged?”

Because growth does not begin by bypassing pain. It begins by making space for it.

Together, we would:

  • Slow the pace and honour what has been lost

  • Separate who you are from the role you held

  • Normalise your experience instead of judging it

  • Create safety for emotions without trying to fix them

  • Rebuild self-trust before forcing future plans

Clarity comes after compassion, not before.


Many clients feel relieved when they realise there is a pattern to what they’re experiencing. We may explore frameworks like:

  1. Kübler-Ross Change Curve to validate your experience. If you’re angry today, that’s progress. If you’re in the “valley” of low energy, that’s processing. It’s not a sign of weakness; it’s a sign of transition.

  2. Bridges’ Transition Model: We’ll identify what exactly you need to let go of so you don’t carry old ghosts into your next interview. We’ll navigate the “Neutral Zone”: that uncomfortable in-between together, so you don’t rush into the wrong role just to escape the uncertainty.




Healing the Patterns of the Past

In our sessions, we’ll gently perform what I call an Endings Audit. We’ll look at how you’ve handled endings before: past jobs, big moves, even old relationships.

Do you run before you’re pushed? Do you cling on until the last second?

By understanding your patterns, we ensure this redundancy doesn’t just result in a new job, but in a higher level of self-awareness. We turn a traumatic ending into a strategic completion.


Why Work With Me?

Job loss is not failure. Grief is not weakness. Endings are not the opposite of growth.

Often, they are where growth quietly begins.

You aren’t just “between jobs.” You are in a sacred space of redesign. You aren’t losing your power; you are preparing to wield it differently.

If you’re ready to be seen, supported, and guided through this season, not rushed through it, I would be honoured to walk with you.

You are not broken. You are not behind. You are human; standing at the threshold of an ending that matters.

And I am here, ready to walk this path with you.

Thank you for being a VCC reader.